Have More Money
Money doesn’t like or dislike you; nor does the universe. Nevertheless, you have to foster a positive relationship with your money in order for it to increase.
When it comes to their money, most people who lack money:
· Cringe at their bills.
· Attract or find that they have more bills than income.
· They have a belief or feeling that ‘the system’ works against them so that they can’t get ahead.
· They spend money they don’t have, sometimes because they went on a binge other times because an unexpected bill popped up or because something irresistible came their way.
· The more they want money, the harder it seems to come by. They covet money.
· Some people work hard- late nights, doing all they can- and still don’t get paid as much as others who work half as much.
Money As Relationship
Think of money as a relationship partner. People get into relationships to feel good and have fun. To be in love. However, relationships are nothing more than an infatuation when and if you aren’t treating the relationship as something that you need to give to, nurture, and care for.
Imagine having a relationship with your dream partner but just wanting them to give things to you, to be nice to you, to do things for you. The truth is that a relationship is about ‘relating.’ You have to learn how to have an interplay of communication, an alliance, an exchange between the two of you.
The same is true of your money. If you are wanting or expecting a one-way relationship in which you just receive money, you’ll find yourself- likely- in lack.
Pretend for a minute that the list above is how you feel about your lover:
· You cringe — imagine how your lover feels when they say or do something, and you cringe. The energy is unwelcoming. Most people don’t put up with constantly being met with unwelcoming energy, words, or moods. They leave. If this were your money, you could say that energetically speaking, you are unwelcoming of your financial status.
· More bills than income — Ironically, the number one thing that couples fight over is money! Let’s say you and your lover constantly fought over money or anything else. Couples can face challenges together -like paying a high mortgage when they have a common goal. However, if one wants to go on vacations and the other wants a new home with a higher mortgage, then the bills feel like a burden or a cause for fights.
In this example, you and your lover have to either have a common goal with your bills (at which point you will perceive the bills more positively) or you will constantly feel out-billed, stuck, and unhappy.
· Feeling like ‘the system’ doesn’t work for you- feelings this way probably means that you feel like your lover is out of your league. You won’t keep them long because the system is ‘rigged.’ People always cheat, right? You can’t win.
Note: these are limiting beliefs about a lover, ‘the system’ or money.
· Spending more than you have- people form agreements in relationships. If your lover keeps overspending the money you share, you won’t be happy.
· Covet money — Whether your lover covets you or looks at other relationships and covets other people and/or their romance, you’ll feel terrible. The constant message you are given is that you aren’t good enough. There’s never satisfaction at home.
· Work hard — is there anything worse than trying and working hard to make your lover happy, but they aren’t happy? Maybe they constantly seem unhappy, tell you they are, or leave you. Nothing you can do is ever good enough.
What Is Your Relationship To Money?
How do you most commonly feel about money? Do you feel you have enough, or that you never have enough? Do you ignore your bank account balance? Do you make any plans, saving money towards something — or do you find that there’s never enough to save?
Let’s reduce relationships to money to three categories: 1) You experience abundance 2) you're ok, you can take care of things, but rarely have ‘extra’ money 3) You experience lack, there’s never enough.
Which category are you in?
The idea is for you to get to know your energy with money. That’s because you can’t change your experience with money the way you want to until you see where you’re energy or handling of money is now. Then you’ll be empowered to improve your energy and mindset with money — more importantly, your experience and the amount of money you have.
Money Awareness
Let’s get more specific with our three simplified money groups and look at what behaviors, beliefs, and energy may be typical of each group:
1. Experience: Financial Abundance
I. Beliefs: that there’s enough money for everyone- they can do what they love or enjoy for money
II. They like being generous: it feels good and it adds to life.
III. Feelings: They aren’t afraid of their bills- they know the money will come, more than they need.
IV. When they spend their money, they do so freely with an appreciation for life.
V. They know they can focus on and improve their financial situation
VI. A dream vacation? Yes, life is short, let’s do it!
2. Money is, OK, with no ‘extra’ cash
I. Beliefs: hard work, or doing other right things, brings in money but only a lucky few get ahead.
II. Generosity is great when you have it. So tipping the waitstaff is always a statement about the level of their service. ‘I work hard for my money, so should they!’
III. Feelings: As long as no unexpected bills come, all should be well.
IV. Spending small amounts of money is fine, but large bills are hard to take!
V. They work with their budget, but can’t really change it.
VI. A dream vacation? If we really want it, we’ll have to plan and save for some time.
3. Lack: There’s never enough money
I. Beliefs: even though you can never really get ahead, working hard ensures some money for some time.
II. You can’t be generous when you don’t have enough anyway…
III. Feelings: sometimes bills don’t outweigh income but most of the time, life is expensive!
IV. Money must be liquid, it always goes fast!
V. No need for a budget, the money is all allocated
VI. A dream vacation? In my dreams!
What’s Your Money Mindset
Basically, the idea here is to recognize what kind of mindset you have with money.
People tend to think that their circumstances determine their mindset and that they don’t get to choose what mindset group they fall into. However, there are people who change their mindset- not because their circumstances changed; they changed something in them (their thoughts and or feelings, actions, and/or energy) which, in turn, changed their experience.
The first thing you must acknowledge and live by, if you are going to increase your money, is that change comes from within.
The Universe Doesn’t Reward Blood, Sweat And Tears;
You may- mistakenly- think that you have to get ahead in life to make more money, but ‘getting ahead’ happens from within you first. You have, no doubt, heard the saying, “Work smarter, not harder.”
It’s easy to ignore this saying or to write it off when you can’t figure out how to ‘work smarter.’
Change your mind today. Decide that ‘working smarter means making changes in you. Chances are you too have already proven to yourself that the universe doesn’t reward working harder. Time to work smarter.
How Do You Start To Work Smarter?
You become aware of your money mindset: your beliefs, feelings, and behaviors around money. Ask yourself, if money were my lover, would I be a good partner?
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