Welcome to The Flowing Zone: Stop Trying So Hard, And You Will Have It All
Tap Into the Power of Self to Catapult Your Spiritual Journey to New Heights
In this issue:
1 Kalyn Has It All, In The Flow
2 Guided Meditations
3 Do You Fill In Reality? What Is Your Mind Creating?
“If you try and effort, exhausting yourself, things can come together, but your time and energy are limited. Plus, when you make it happen, things never manifest as incredibly and perfectly as when the universe brings it to you.” - Kalyn
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Kalyn Has It All, In The Flow
Having It All-
Dear Santa, Unvierse or anyone listening.
I want money. A boat. A mansion. I don’t want to work. I want love. And, why not make me famous?
When it comes to having it all, there are really two ways to see “It all” – one is through your Soul’s perspective, and one is through ego’s.
If you caught the last issue of our newsletter (if not, go here and read it!), then you know that I was losing my gorgeous, expensive, and beloved Macaw parrot. Similar to a shadow, she was always with us, on a shoulder, on a perch, or cuddling in bed at night. But she passed away.
Such an untimely and devastating loss doesn’t sound like I have it all. Actually, my ego might tell your ego that I’m cursed. It’s the only explanation for a disease that affects all parrots who catch the virus— and my parrots. (Notice the lack of logic: how can I be cursed? It’s a deadly virus for parrots.)
However, this is a low-vibrating judgment.
If you ask my Soul (if you could), my Soul would say I have it all. I’ve gotten to experience something wonderful and amazing, despite my loss. In this time frame (meaning the times we are living in), I have access to getting parrots from all over the world, and access to the proper food and housing for them. This has never been so until the last 30 or so years.
Having it all doesn’t mean that someone rewarded you with everything you wanted. It means recognizing your gifts, recognizing when you have seen and unseen help. Appreciating your circumstances if you can focus on what you want to manifest versus how you will survive today (think of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs: Do you fight for your basic needs or are you at the top of the pyramid refining your life?)
You, too, have it all. All.
When you realize you have it all now then your journey becomes a dream. Your days are filled with wonder and you have the opportunity to live it all. ❤️
2 Guided Meditations—
One benefit of being subscribed to the Flowing Zone Newsletter that Kris & I offer is guided meditations. The thing is, it’s tax season (death and taxes, right?) so Kris has been tied up. He’s the tech guy and, until Uncle Sam’s deadline passes, we’ll have to wait to read an article from him and to get a new process.
This means, keep reading! Opening and reading the newsletter and ‘liking’ it helps our newsletter rating :)
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Do You Fill In Reality?
What Is Your Mind Creating?
By Kalyn
Intent Means You See Failure
Despite the fact that I avoid eating bread, this year I learned that sourdough is considered a ‘fermented’ food because active sourdough yeast eats the flour over a course of 12 to 24 hours, creating fermented sourdough for baking.
With this information, for the first time in ten years, I began to make bread. Well, not bread. First, I had to make the starter, which entails mixing water and wheat flour and waiting until the yeast magically appears, starts eating the flour and makes a sourdough starter. This can take days or, in my case, weeks.
Something was wrong with my process.
The starter was supposed to bubble, smell acidic, and double in size.
Mine sat. Flat, like fine sand (or flour) sitting in water, which accumulated on top. “Nope,” I said to myself in a disappointed tone, “This doesn’t look like the one on YouTube. Hmm.”
What was wrong? I had followed the directions, which I had re-watched almost every day. The directions were simple: remove half of the top, add new flour and water, and mix. Cover and let sit.
Simple directions. Simple measurements, measured in grams. How could I go wrong? Frustration and a lack of answers followed.
Then I asked a sourdough group on Facebook. In a humid climate, use less water. Oh, geez, that seems obvious. Let’s start again!
Huzzah! A couple of days later, there were bubbles, an acidic smell, and growth!
The ‘Focus’ Lesson
Geez, making sourdough bread is so easy!!! Once you know the secret, don’t give up, and have the time, energy, and persistence to keep at it! (Please, dear reader, add a screaming tone to this sentence as it is due.)
Instead of taking 10 to 14 days, making sourdough took me pulling my hair, brushing it again and almost a month. (Ok, I exaggerate some, but I’m making a point!)
Now, I can blink and make sourdough bread, which my family loves.
The moral of this lesson? It’s coming, read on!
But I will say I focused on making bread. I had no expectations or judgments. I was crystal clear that I had sand (intent means you see failure). Keeping at it and adding a correction equaled a recipe for a successful manifestation.
Manifestation Recipe: A clear and intentful focus. Free of expectations and judgments. Take your action and then let it sit and see if it bubbles during the day. (Bubbles being metaphorical here, you caught that, right?)
If You Push The River, Will It Change Course?
My daughter likes waking up to see what flavor of sourdough I’ve made the days I make it. The small joy of surprise- is it kalamata or lemon and basil? - is fun. The smell of baking bread wafting through the whole house is alluring, and then eating the warm, fresh bread is like nothing else!
This morning as I prepare the bread in the kitchen, I think I hear a morning squawk from Rosie, saying, “Hey, let me come and say hello!” With this greeting, I sense my energy rising in frequency and I start to feel joyful at the thought of responding to my Macaw parrot — but no. My logical mind kicks in, reminding me that she has passed away due to a terrible and notorious disease that robbed her life.
Again, I re-discover the pain and sorrow of loss.
How Could I Have Heard Her?
Projection.
In psychology, projection refers to a defense mechanism where individuals attribute their own wanted or unwanted thoughts, feelings, or impulses onto another person or situation. It involves projecting one’s own emotions, desires, or traits onto someone else, often without being consciously aware of doing so. Projection can serve as a way for individuals to protect their ego by misperceiving life to suit how they want life to be. This tends to provide a sense of safety and security, albeit false. Of course, sooner or later, like an old-fashioned projected movie, the film runs out.
Projecting Your Ego
You see, hear, and experience what you want to experience. It’s a powerful trick, but it only fools you. Worse still, if you don’t realize that you are projecting something, you can set yourself up for an even greater fall.
I want my Macaw back. It’s a habit. In the mornings, I go downstairs, and she squawks because she wants to be with Kris and me—always. The bond with a parrot can be amazing.
My next thought was, “How could I think I’m hearing her?” I could have sworn that I heard her. I still could.
Projection is like your insistence on how things should be. Ironically, there is a part of you that is convinced: if you get others to believe something and if you make life look the way you want it to look, then you’ll arrive! You’ll have, be, or experience what you prefer. At least, that’s what your ego convinces you of at a subconscious or pre-thought level.
What Do You Project Onto Reality?
Everything and anything.
Sometimes you project something small. You ask, “Will you go to the party?” and you hear the answer you want to hear, not what was said.
Other times, your projection can be so big that it takes you on a rocket ship off the Earth, blasting you into fantasy: “She’s really in love with me, she doesn’t like him but she can’t leave him yet.”
Needless to say, there is a difference between imagining something and projecting it, getting lost in the fantasy of it. One has a creative power in your life, imagination. The other ends up encouraging the building of castles out of sand on the beach which wash away in a day.
One of the worst I’ve heard of is the desire to lead a spiritual life, which causes people to quit their jobs, follow their dreams, and become yoga instructors.
Sadly, the statistic is that over 90% of the people who project that this is what they should do, leave the stability and income of their job behind and dive into their dream — tend to jump with no place to land.
Perhaps they thought all signs pointed to “yes.”
Perhaps someone said something meaningful to them, “You would make a great teacher,” and they felt it was an omen.
Or sometimes they are tired of their boss or clients at work and decide that the universe will support their new business because a guru said it would.
The Problem With Projection
Yes, your boss sucks. The Toltecs (an ancient school of wisdom) called such a boss a petty tyrant and said that such a person is a gift! After all, being annoyed, pushed, and prodded physically or emotionally helps you see your weak points. It is then that you can strengthen and heal yourself.
Your karma sucks. It attracts your issues and problems. Over and over again. Haven’t you noticed that you keep tripping over the same thing in life, even when you quit your job and get a new one or end your relationship and get into a new one? Different situations, jobs, or people. Same damn karma that trips you, sometimes causing a greater and greater fall.
What gives?
Does life suck?
Of course, the answer is yes and no.
Life will manifest your karma in daily challenges to help you grow, evolve, and become a bigger and better version of you — when you take on, embrace, flow and grow from your experiences.
When you refuse to recognize this and you insist and project that you should become a yoga teacher, then you experience the next law of life:
As you raise your frequency by growing, healing, and meditating, life tends to give you more choices. Manifesting your dreams and being the version of you that you prefer feels easier.
On the other hand, when you avoid your karma, your challenges and expect the bliss of ignorance, life tends to limit your choices until you face what it had been trying to show you all along.
Imagine, Be And Be Projection & Avoidance Free
Making sourdough was interesting. Like so many things in life, I’m not sure what really drove it in me. Day after day, I worked on it. I had only one expectation: bubbles. I looked at my flat “starter” every day and kept going. When an island collected in the middle of my sandy beach with water around it — which was nothing like starter should look — my imagination had a harder time dreaming about cranberry-walnut bread.
Still, I had a one-track mind and kept going.
Unfortunately, in life, it is common for us to build up emotional exhaustion. Our boss takes things out on us, no doubt. Our client or co-worker is annoying, undeniable. Our relationship is challenging, our dog is barking, and the only peace and quiet comes at the bottom of a glass of wine or when your head hits a pillow.
You’re emotionally exhausted and tired of life. Of course, you want to quit and get paid to be a yoga teacher who helps others improve their health and bring peace and a connection to their inner being.
The problem is that if you aren’t connected with your inner being and if you aren’t feeling balanced and at one with life, how can you teach it? Projecting your ability to create a YouTube channel with millions of views is likely a projection.
A true dream just is. Look up to the sky. The stars shine, no matter what. They aren’t exhausted because they just are. They just do their thing.
If you want to be a yoga teacher, or do anything else, to get away from your current exhaustion, petty tyrant or life irritants, then the reality is that you are trying to escape.
The universe manifests who you are, not what you want.
So, if you are escaping, the universe manifests something related to escape. It doesn’t manifest the calm yoga teacher who is one with life.
If you love yoga, do it. If you love reading stories, read them — I’ve heard of a YouTube channel with millions of views in which the person just reads books. It’s not that the universe is unfair and rewarding some YouTubers, and some yoga teachers; it’s that the universe manifests who you are.
Who You Are: A Seedling
I know. We all dream big. You want to be the next inventor of the next light bulb or the next Picasso, the next singer on “America’s Got Talent,” who becomes the next rock star.
However, it hasn’t worked so far. The seedling that you are has not turned into a hundred-year-old tree overnight.
The snowball effect: when you take a snowflake and add another and another, in time and with consistency, you will have a snowball; keep at it, you’ll have a snow giant!
In other words, you have a dream: once you are clear on your dream so that you realize that, like that shining star, your dream is just who you are, then you have a genuine seed. Plant the seed. Sprouting takes time, and becoming a large tree takes consistency. Keep at it, keep at you.
Don’t talk yourself into planting other things in your garden, and don’t ignore the weeds. Take care of your garden and the patch of earth where you placed your seed.
Be you, do you every day. Recognize that your dream, if genuine, will be. Recognize that reality won’t bring the tree tomorrow. If you find you planted a seed or collected a snowflake in hopes of a tree or snowman tomorrow, start over. Find your inner star.
When you shine, you’ll shine. A star is a star. It’s always in the sky. It’s always shining. Enjoy the sky. Shine. Be brilliant. A seedling with no distractions may take time, as my sourdough starter did. Keep at it. Several snowflakes still amount to so few drops you may feel discouraged. Change that. Do your yoga or collect your snowflake daily. Appreciate it. Recognize that you have your whole life to grow and become more and more of who you are, and you will.
I know. You want to live it now. Do. Just don’t expect dough today. Every day I was on the road to making sourdough. Some roads are shorter, some are longer. It’s the journey. Actually, there is no destination. Like a star, you shine. If you are a yoga teacher, it doesn’t matter how many students you have or don’t. If you are a snow-sculpting artist, you sculpt. There’s no “I’ve arrived!”
If you plant your seed, you’ve started your journey. Every day, your journey will deepen.
Enjoy it. Enjoy being the brilliant star you are and teach yoga at night until you are making enough money to quit your job. That’s when you’ve received a sign that the universe is manifesting who you are. ❤️
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